Looking above episode 16 - Offendability 

Special Guest - Darci Wilson

Let's be real, sometimes our friends hurt us.  In this episode, Karen talks with Darci about one of the most tragic killers of friendship - offense.  When we choose offense over grace, friendships weaken and frequently die.  Fighting offense requires intentionality in our thoughts and actions.

Questions for discussion: 

1. What's the silliest (most trivial) offense you can think of?
2. Are you someone who is easily offended or someone who is hard to offend?  Why do you think that is?
3. Which reason for offense are you most prone to: self-focus, insecurity, feeling left out, misunderstandings, disagreement?
4. Can you think of a time you offended someone unintentionally?
5. 2 Corinthians 10:5 tells us to take every thought captive. Is this something you do? What does that look like for you?
6. How can thinking on the truth and assuming the best change our response to potentially offending situations?
7. 1 Peter 4:8 It is most loving to be honest with our friends. Why is it important that we talk honestly about offenses rather than bottling them?
8. Colossians 3:13 Do you often think about the forgiveness and grace God extends to you?  How can that awareness change the way you offer forgiveness?
9. Do you agree with Darci's assertion that it's good for friends to fight?
10. Is there a friendship you need to repair? Can our group pray for you as you take steps to repair the offense?

The Takeaway: The Enemy wants to tear down our relationships.  We have to fight offense by controlling our thoughts, showing love in honesty, and choosing to forgive.

To-Do This Week:  Have the hard conversation you've been avoiding.  If you've offended someone, work to bring reconciliation.  If you've been offended, lovingly tell your friend and then extend grace.